Many of the challenges faced when coming out as polyamorous are significant enough for many to keep their relationship orientation under wraps. In some cases, fears of losing a job, the kids, and the support of family members are very real. In my last blog post, I touched a bit on some of the surprising outcomes that I had not quite anticipated during the process. Stating that it was “Good Stuff” might have been a stretch – it was more that it wasn’t quite as bad as I thought and actually, there were some really awesome outcomes.
This time – it’s about the challenges I have faced during this journey. I tried to come up with a list but , honestly, the only challenge I could think of just in the aspect of coming out polyamorous, was strained family/friend relationships.
I have watched some of my relationships with some family and friends become distant and some have disengaged entirely. While this has generated some sadness, it’s important to empathize that everyone has their own boundaries and our accountability is to our own actions , not the reactions of others.
It’s an unusual position to be in – happy to be living an authentic life but at the same time, almost grieving a time in life when some people in your life seemed the most happiest when they were around you.
So instead of an article of challenges, I raise my glass to just this one. To all those who have chosen to walk on a path a little farther way from mine – you still shine bright in my heart.
My So Called Solo Poly Life 